What Is “Sexting?”

When people take a sexually revealing picture or video of themselves and send it or them as text message attachments, it’s called “sexting.” And recently the practice has been increasing exponentially amongst kids. Kids “sext” to show off, to entice someone, to show interest in someone, or to prove commitment. The problem with that, is that the moment the relationship ends (and most of them do) someone is in possession of a highly compromising image that can be easily posted on a social networking site or sent around via email or text.

There have been some high profile cases of sexting — including High School Musical star Vanessa Hudgens, who sent a nude picture to her co-star/boyfriend, Zac Efron, that ended up all over the Internet and made headlines. And in July 2008, Cincinnati teen Jesse Logan committed suicide after a nude photo she’d sent to a boyfriend was circulated widely around her high school, resulting in harassment from her classmates.

Why It Matters

In a technology world where anything can be copied, sent, posted, and seen by huge audiences, there’s no such thing as being able to control images. Even if a photo was taken and sent as a token of love, the intention doesn’t matter — the technology makes it possible for everyone to see your child’s most intimate self. And in the hands of teenagers, when revealing photos are made public the subject almost always becomes the object of ridicule and name calling. Furthermore, sending sexual images to minors is against the law, and some states in the US and the UK have begun prosecuting kids for child pornography or obscenity.

Advice for Parents

Don’t wait – for an incident to happen to your child or your child’s friend before you talk to your kids about the consequences of sexting. Sure, talking about sex or dating with teens can be really uncomfortable, but better to have the talk before the fact.

Remind them – that once an image is sent, it can never be retrieved — and they will lose control of it. Ask teens how they would feel if their teachers, parents, or the entire school saw the picture, because it happens all the time.

Talk about pressures – to send revealing photos. Let teens know that you understand that they can be pushed or dared into sending something. Tell them that no matter how big the social pressure is, the potential social humiliation will be hundreds of times worse.

The buck stops with them. If someone sends them a photo, have them delete it immediately. Better to be part of the solution than the problem. Besides, if they do send it on, they’re distributing pornography — and that’s against the law.

If you can’t deal with this, have your kids go to a professional that can help (and you should go yourself).

Statistics

• 22% of teen girls and 20% of teen boys have sent nude or semi-nude photos of themselves
• 22% of teens admit that technology makes them personally more forward and aggressive
• 38% say exchanging sexy content makes dating or hooking up with others more likely
• 29% believe those exchanging sexy content are “expected” to date or hook up

Remember; revealing photos can be resent to a vast audience. If the person you or a kid sends an explicit image via mobile phone, or even email. These can be forwarded to someone else, and before you know it, the content is uploaded online or passed between peers and sending a sexual image to a minor, even minor to minor is illegal.

Evidence

As a parent, you may be worried what your kids are sending to each other. Where do your ethics come in to play regarding a kids privacy? Sometimes drastic measures will force you to intervene in a child’s life and development and for his or her protection.  For the worried parent there is software available that will help you. MOBILedit is a Forensic Application that works will all mobile phones and PDAs and requres a data cable (one of these usually comes with a new phone as standard, if not, they are cheap to buy).

MOBILedit is quite costly, but the trial is fully functional and will allow you to use the application for a short time. Which will be all you need to gather the information you need. This software can also be used to read test (SMS) messages from both sides of the conversation. This is useful if your child is being bullied, or is indeed a bully him or herself. The application can be used for many predicaments you and your child may come across, and a way of proving facts.

Do not use this software as just a spying tool, this would be unfair and you would be infringing on privacy issues if you have no just cause, so please use this software wisely. You can download the trial below.