Why do people cheat? Well its usually for a few reasons. Mostly its because they are not happy in their relationship (more on this later). Other times is because they can, they don’t care or have no respect for the person the are with. It could be for revenge or they fall in love with someone else. But now, in the information age, people cheat  because its never been easier to meet people.

With the availability of chat  applications like Windows Live Messenger/MSN, Yahoo, Google Chat and chat rooms or  on Internet Web sites like dating sites, Twitter and Facebook, the temptation to meet new people online increases. According to research, online relationships provide individuals with an outlet to tell secrets and express themselves to a stranger anonymously, while allowing for the creation of another persona, or to flirt and get to know someone before they meet.

Men often create a well-groomed, professional, athletic persona, while women create a thin, beautiful and adventurous alter ego. When online, people create fictitious, seemingly perfect personalities that are desirable to others to fill social and psychological needs.Though, most come clean after a short period when it becomes time to meet the other person. In 40% of the cases, online cheating is with someone the person already knows.

Divorce and Relationship Breakdown

A recent survey found that Facebook and Twitter are now fuelling Divorce and the breakdown of relationships. The UK Newspaper ‘The Telegraph’ published this story about the divorce factor. However, this is not something new. Relationships have always been subject to online misuse. These Social Networking sites just make it easier for people to have infidelity whilst in a relationship.

Why it happens

Once the honeymoon phase of marriage or a courtship is over, couples sometimes get bored, begin to take each other for granted and stop doing the nice things they did for one another before getting married or involved. When that happens, (spouses or partners) are vulnerable and may seek affection and attention from someone else. Men are goal oriented. They can’t read (women’s) minds. Women should tell their husbands what they need. Most of the time, men just want to do what their wives need them to do. If a woman needs attention, she should tell her husband exactly what she wants.

Warning signs, consequences and recovery

There are warning signs that an individual might be having an online relationship such as an increase in time spent privately on the Internet, reluctance to let others access the computer, frequently erasing Internet histories and constantly deleting e-mails.

In addition to providing warning signs,there are tips to stop having an online affair:

• Admit Internet use is causing problems in the relationship
• Only use the computer for specific reasons — do not “surf” the Internet
• Move the computer to an open area
• Remove online messaging programs and change e-mail addresses
• Install computer monitoring software
• Spend more time with your loved one, family and friends
• Communicate more with your loved one. Don’t keep secrets

Sometimes people become addicted to the Internet. If an individual is addicted, then more intensive counselling to battle the addiction may be necessary.

The Signs of a Cyber Affair

I’m sure all of us who have been in relationships wonder what our significant other is doing when they are on-line. There is a distinct difference between that random thought that may enter your jealous mind, and a real reason to be thinking about what your loved one is doing or who they are chatting with on-line. If you ever have wanted to know if your loved one was guilty of infidelity, but don’t know how to go about finding out without asking them, then these few tips may help you out.

Lying is always an indicator of something gone wrong in a relationship and is often a sign of infidelity. If your loved one begins to tell you they are “just surfing the Internet,” and they do it in privacy, you may have something to worry about. You must ask yourself how many times this has been happening, There is a fine line before having friends of the opposite sex on the Internet and constantly being with them on-line. If he/she has nothing to hide, then he/she shouldn’t be lying to you in the first place, and you shouldn’t turn into the questioning and jealous loved one until the excuses begin occurring much more frequently.

You should also look for signs (listed below) to see if your loved one seems to be drifting away from you as well. Try to pay more attention to the inner workings of your relationship. See if husband/wife/partner still spends quality time with you willingly, or if he/she avoids speaking with you about anything besides superficial topics. If they are not paying as much attention to you, and you know they do not have a significant reason to want to be alone or more aloof, then this may also be a sign of infidelity. Are they simply avoiding you, or avoiding their friends as well? Usually if a person is cheating on their loved one, they continue to keep contact with their friends much more than the loved one. Sometimes, the best way to tell if they are cheating on you is through the little things.

No matter what happens, always make sure to talk to your loved one before making any rash decisions. Sometimes you may think you have the best clues and you could be completely wrong, so confront them and ask them what’s going on and why you are worried without accusing them. You still want to give them a chance to defend themselves so you can then decide if they are telling the truth, lying once again or if they come clean with the cyber affair. So whatever you decide, discuss your thoughts and feelings with your significant other before breaking off that relationship because of the cyber affair.

Experts say that a gut instinct is one of the most powerful signs of infidelity. Statistics say that 85% of women who feel their lover is cheating are correct. 50% of men who feel their lover is cheating are right. The first clue is seldom obvious. Typically, it’s a “feeling” that something is different. You notice minor changes in your lover’s behaviour. Even the most skilled cheater can’t hide these clues and only a lover in total denial can miss them. The first sign of infidelity can be a comment or incident that seems harmless but remains in your mind. The following is a short list of infidelity signs:

• Your spouse spends an excessive amount of time in the on-line chat rooms
• Long chats to the opposite sex on an Instant Messenger
• Minimizes/Closes or Hides Windows when you walk into the room
• Your spouse pays less attention to you
• Your spouse is preoccupied with on-line chatting, more distant emotionally
• Your spouse is insisting on chatting alone
• Your spouse has unaccounted time away from home
• Your spouse has a decreased interest in sex
• Your spouse becomes defensive during normal conversations
• Discovery of a post office box
• The toilet bowl seat is up, (men) and when you left home it was down
• The passenger seat in the car has been moved and is not in the usual position
• An unusual number of hang ups or wrong number calls
• Fragrances of colognes and/or perfumes are noticed on clothing of a cheating spouse
• Car mileage is unusual for claims made by cheating spouse
• Your spouse explains a late return home as a result of having to drive
  out of town on business, but yet the mileage on the car indicates less than ten mile driven
• Discover the recent opening of another checking account
• Unaccounted for hairs of a different colour on clothing
• Cigarette smoke on clothing that can not be explained
• Credit card transactions for unknown or unusual types of purchases
• Cosmetic, perfume or lipstick purchases listed but not received
• An increase in toll and/or long distance calls
• Increase in ATM withdrawals. Check the transaction record to ID the withdrawal
• Income tax returns revealing unexplained travel and business expense deductions
• Florist or jewellery bills
• Credit card gas purchases that are inconsistent for the amount of miles driven on the car
• Joins a health gym or weight reducing clinic
• Visits made to the tanning salon
• New hair style
• Wearing hair spray, colognes & perfumes more often
• Needs a pager, mobile phone, Protective of said devices
• Excessive buying of new and different clothes
• Sudden and unexplained change in clothing style
• The buying of sexy underwear or lingerie
• There is an unexplained aloofness or indifference in the relationship

Conclusion

Is cheating wrong? Well, yes if you are deceiving a partner or are being deceived. In a relationship, you must trust your partner or spouse, if you have any room for doubt, talk to each other. Try to sort things out before they escalate and get worse. If he or she is cheating, then either sort it out and learn to trust again, or end it. You will only be causing yourself much more pain in the long run.

Personal Service

If your still in doubt, contact me to find out how you or I can investigate your situation and find proof that your partner is or isn’t cheating.

Your passwords are the keys you use to access personal information that you’ve stored on your computer and in your online accounts.

If criminals or other malicious users steal this information, they can use your name to open new credit card accounts, apply for a mortgage, or pose as you in online transactions. In many cases you would not notice these attacks until it was too late.

Fortunately, it is not hard to create strong passwords and keep them well protected.

What makes a strong password

To an attacker, a strong password should appear to be a random string of characters. The following criteria can help your passwords do so:

Make it lengthy. Each character that you add to your password increases the protection that it provides many times over. Your passwords should be 8 or more characters in length; 14 characters or longer is ideal.

Many systems also support use of the space bar in passwords, so you can create a phrase made of many words (a “pass phrase“). A pass phrase is often easier to remember than a simple password, as well as longer and harder to guess.

Combine letters, numbers, and symbols. The greater variety of characters that you have in your password, the harder it is to guess. Other important specifics include:

The fewer types of characters in your password, the longer it must be. A 15-character password composed only of random letters and numbers is about 33,000 times stronger than an 8-character password composed of characters from the entire keyboard. If you cannot create a password that contains symbols, you need to make it considerably longer to get the same degree of protection. An ideal password combines both length and different types of symbols.

Use the entire keyboard, not just the most common characters. Symbols typed by holding down the “Shift” key and typing a number are very common in passwords. Your password will be much stronger if you choose from all the symbols on the keyboard, including punctuation marks not on the upper row of the keyboard, and any symbols unique to your language.

Use words and phrases that are easy for you to remember, but difficult for others to guess. The easiest way to remember your passwords and pass phrases is to write them down. Contrary to popular belief, there is nothing wrong with writing passwords down, but they need to be adequately protected in order to remain secure and effective.

In general, passwords written on a piece of paper are more difficult to compromise across the Internet than a password manager, Web site, or other software-based storage tool, such as password managers.

Create a strong, memorable password in 6 steps

Use these steps to develop a strong password:

1. Think of a sentence that you can remember. This will be the basis of your strong password or pass phrase. Use a memorable sentence, such as “My son Aiden is three years old.”

2. Check if the computer or online system supports the pass phrase directly. If you can use a pass phrase (with spaces between characters) on your computer or online system, do so.

3. If the computer or online system does not support pass phrases, convert it to a password. Take the first letter of each word of the sentence that you’ve created to create a new, nonsensical word. Using the example above, you’d get: “msaityo”.

4. Add complexity by mixing uppercase and lowercase letters and numbers. It is valuable to use some letter swapping or misspellings as well. For instance, in the pass phrase above, consider misspelling Aiden’s name, or substituting the word “three” for the number 3. There are many possible substitutions, and the longer the sentence, the more complex your password can be. Your pass phrase might become “My SoN Ayd3N is 3 yeeRs old.” If the computer or online system will not support a pass phrase, use the same technique on the shorter password. This might yield a password like “MsAy3yo”.

5. Finally, substitute some special characters. You can use symbols that look like letters, combine words (remove spaces) and other ways to make the password more complex. Using these tricks, we create a pass phrase of “MySoN 8N i$ 3 yeeR$ old” or a password (using the first letter of each word) “M$8ni3y0″.

6. Test your new password with a Password Checker. A Password Checker is a non-recording feature on this Web site that helps determine your password’s strength as you type.

Password strategies to avoid

Some common methods used to create passwords are easy to guess by criminals. To avoid weak, easy-to-guess passwords:

Avoid sequences or repeated characters. “12345678,” “222222,” “abcdefg,” or adjacent letters on your keyboard do not help make secure passwords.

Avoid using only look-alike substitutions of numbers or symbols. Criminals and other malicious users who know enough to try and crack your password will not be fooled by common look-alike replacements, such as to replace an ‘i’ with a ’1′ or an ‘a’ with ‘@’ as in “M1cr0$0ft” or “P@ssw0rd”. But these substitutions can be effective when combined with other measures, such as length, misspellings, or variations in case, to improve the strength of your password.

Avoid your login name. Any part of your name, birthday, social security number, or similar information for your loved ones constitutes a bad password choice. This is one of the first things criminals will try.

Avoid dictionary words in any language – Criminals use sophisticated tools that can rapidly guess passwords that are based on words in multiple dictionaries, including words spelled backwards, common misspellings, and substitutions. This includes all sorts of profanity and any word you would not say in front of your children.

Use more than one password everywhere – If any one of the computers or online systems using this password is compromised, all of your other information protected by that password should be considered compromised as well. It is critical to use different passwords for different systems.

Avoid using online storage – If malicious users find these passwords stored online or on a networked computer, they have access to all your information.

The “blank password” option

A blank password (no password at all) on your account is more secure than a weak password such as “1234″. Criminals can easily guess a simplistic password, but on computers using Windows XP/Vista or Windows 7, an account without a password cannot be accessed remotely by means such as a network or the Internet. (This option is not available for Microsoft Windows 2000, Windows Me, or earlier versions) You can choose to use a blank password on your computer account if these criteria are met:

• You only have one computer or you have several computers but you do not need to access information on one computer from another one

• The computer is physically secure (you trust everyone who has physical access to the computer)

The use of a blank password is not always a good idea. For example, a laptop computer that you take with you is probably not physically secure, so on those you should have a strong password.

How to access and change your passwords

Online accounts

Web sites have a variety of policies that govern how you can access your account and change your password. Look for a link (such as “my account”) somewhere on the site’s home page that goes to a special area of the site that allows password and account management.

Computer passwords

The Help files for your computer operating system will usually provide information about how to create, modify, and access password-protected user accounts, as well as how to require password protection upon startup of your computer. You can also try to find this information online at the software manufacturer’s Web site. For example, if you use Microsoft Windows XP, online help can show you how to manage passwords, change passwords, and more.

Keep your passwords secret

Treat your passwords and pass phrases with as much care as the information that they protect.

Don’t reveal them to others – Keep your passwords hidden from friends or family members (especially children) who could pass them on to other less trustworthy individuals. Passwords that you need to share with others, such as the password to your online banking account that you might share with your spouse, are the only exceptions.

Protect any recorded passwords – Be careful where you store the passwords that you record or write down. Do not leave these records of your passwords anywhere that you would not leave the information that they protect.

Never provide your password over e-mail or based on an e-mail request. Any e-mail that requests your password or requests that you to go to a Web site to verify your password is almost certainly a fraud. This includes requests from a trusted company or individual. E-mail can be intercepted in transit, and e-mail that requests information might not be from the sender it claims. Internet “phishing” scams use fraudulent e-mail messages to entice you into revealing your user names and passwords, steal your identity, and more.

Change your passwords regularly – This can help keep criminals and other malicious users unaware. The strength of your password will help keep it good for a longer time. A password that is shorter than 8 characters should be considered only good for a week or so, while a password that is 14 characters or longer (and follows the other rules outlined above) can be good for several years.

Do not type passwords on computers that you do not control. Computers such as those in Internet cafés, computer labs, shared systems, kiosk systems, conferences, and airport lounges should be considered unsafe for any personal use other than anonymous Internet browsing. Do not use these computers to check online e-mail, chat rooms, bank balances, business mail, or any other account that requires a user name and password. Criminals can purchase keystroke logging devices for very little money and they take only a few moments to install. These devices let malicious users harvest all the information typed on a computer from across the Internet—your passwords and pass phrases are worth as much as the information that they protect. Windows has an OnScreen Keyboard that you can access if needs be. Press Start > Run and type OSK and click OK. Now use the mouse to type in a password.

Windows 7 On Screen Keyboard

What to do if your password is stolen

Be sure to monitor all the information you protect with your passwords, such as your monthly financial statements, credit reports, online shopping accounts, and so on. Strong, memorable passwords can help protect you against fraud and identity theft, but there are no guarantees. No matter how strong your password is, if someone breaks into the system that stores it, they will have your password. If you notice any suspicious activity that could indicate that someone has accessed your information, notify authorities as quickly as you can. If you need further help on what to do if you think your identity has been stolen or you’ve been similarly defrauded, then contact me.

What Is “Sexting?”

When people take a sexually revealing picture or video of themselves and send it or them as text message attachments, it’s called “sexting.” And recently the practice has been increasing exponentially amongst kids. Kids “sext” to show off, to entice someone, to show interest in someone, or to prove commitment. The problem with that, is that the moment the relationship ends (and most of them do) someone is in possession of a highly compromising image that can be easily posted on a social networking site or sent around via email or text.

There have been some high profile cases of sexting — including High School Musical star Vanessa Hudgens, who sent a nude picture to her co-star/boyfriend, Zac Efron, that ended up all over the Internet and made headlines. And in July 2008, Cincinnati teen Jesse Logan committed suicide after a nude photo she’d sent to a boyfriend was circulated widely around her high school, resulting in harassment from her classmates.

Why It Matters

In a technology world where anything can be copied, sent, posted, and seen by huge audiences, there’s no such thing as being able to control images. Even if a photo was taken and sent as a token of love, the intention doesn’t matter — the technology makes it possible for everyone to see your child’s most intimate self. And in the hands of teenagers, when revealing photos are made public the subject almost always becomes the object of ridicule and name calling. Furthermore, sending sexual images to minors is against the law, and some states in the US and the UK have begun prosecuting kids for child pornography or obscenity.

Advice for Parents

Don’t wait – for an incident to happen to your child or your child’s friend before you talk to your kids about the consequences of sexting. Sure, talking about sex or dating with teens can be really uncomfortable, but better to have the talk before the fact.

Remind them – that once an image is sent, it can never be retrieved — and they will lose control of it. Ask teens how they would feel if their teachers, parents, or the entire school saw the picture, because it happens all the time.

Talk about pressures – to send revealing photos. Let teens know that you understand that they can be pushed or dared into sending something. Tell them that no matter how big the social pressure is, the potential social humiliation will be hundreds of times worse.

The buck stops with them. If someone sends them a photo, have them delete it immediately. Better to be part of the solution than the problem. Besides, if they do send it on, they’re distributing pornography — and that’s against the law.

If you can’t deal with this, have your kids go to a professional that can help (and you should go yourself).

Statistics

• 22% of teen girls and 20% of teen boys have sent nude or semi-nude photos of themselves
• 22% of teens admit that technology makes them personally more forward and aggressive
• 38% say exchanging sexy content makes dating or hooking up with others more likely
• 29% believe those exchanging sexy content are “expected” to date or hook up

Remember; revealing photos can be resent to a vast audience. If the person you or a kid sends an explicit image via mobile phone, or even email. These can be forwarded to someone else, and before you know it, the content is uploaded online or passed between peers and sending a sexual image to a minor, even minor to minor is illegal.

Evidence

As a parent, you may be worried what your kids are sending to each other. Where do your ethics come in to play regarding a kids privacy? Sometimes drastic measures will force you to intervene in a child’s life and development and for his or her protection.  For the worried parent there is software available that will help you. MOBILedit is a Forensic Application that works will all mobile phones and PDAs and requres a data cable (one of these usually comes with a new phone as standard, if not, they are cheap to buy).

MOBILedit is quite costly, but the trial is fully functional and will allow you to use the application for a short time. Which will be all you need to gather the information you need. This software can also be used to read test (SMS) messages from both sides of the conversation. This is useful if your child is being bullied, or is indeed a bully him or herself. The application can be used for many predicaments you and your child may come across, and a way of proving facts.

Do not use this software as just a spying tool, this would be unfair and you would be infringing on privacy issues if you have no just cause, so please use this software wisely. You can download the trial below.

For many people, the word “encryption” invokes images of spies, clandestine operations and World War II, or NSA code breakers feverishly working to decipher enemy messages. Actually, encryption is a priceless security tool that any business can easily use to keep sensitive information confidential and safe from prying eyes.

Unfortunately, many businesses fail to take advantage of encryption technology, fearing that it’s ‘too complex’ and ‘difficult to use’ on a routine basis. In reality, encrypting vital data isn’t much more difficult than running a virus scanner or a data-backup program. Here’s how to get started.

The Basics

There are two basic ways to encrypt data. One approach is to use asymmetric PKI (public-key infrastructure) encryption. PKI cryptography is based on a pair of cryptographic keys: One is private and known only to the user, while the other is public and known to the opposite party in any exchange.

PKI technology provides privacy and confidentiality, access control, proof of document transmission, and document archiving and retrieval support. While most security vendors currently incorporate some type of PKI technology into their software, differences in design and implementation prevent interoperability between products.

The other method of encrypting data is symmetric key protection, also known as “secret-key” encryption. Generally speedier yet less secure than PKI, symmetric encryption uses the same key to both encrypt and decrypt messages. Symmetric technology works best when key distribution is restricted to a limited number of trusted individuals. Since symmetric encryption can be fairly easy to break, it’s primarily used for safeguarding relatively unimportant information or material that only has to be protected for a short period of time.

Applying Encryption

The easiest way to use encryption is to purchase a business application or a hardware product that incorporates some form of encryption technology. Microsoft’s Outlook or Outlook Express email client, for example, provides built-in encryption support. Meanwhile, vendors such as Seagate Technology LLC and Hitachi Ltd. have started incorporating encryption technology into their hard drives.

Since most software applications and hardware products don’t include any type of internal encryption technology, business owners and managers need to look for stand-alone encryption products. This can be a confusing process, one that’s best approached by first determining the business’s precise security requirements, then finding an encryption product that fits each need.

Microsoft Vista Enterprise and Ultimate users can take advantage of BitLocker Drive Encryption, a full disk tool that offers powerful 1024-bit encryption. Another Windows offering is EFS (Encrypting File System), which uses symmetrical PKI technology to provide file encryption.

Beyond Microsoft, leading encryption vendors and products include PGP, free – open-source TrueCrypt, DESlock+, Namo FileLock and T3 Basic Security.

What to Encypt

So how do you know what to encrypt? Here are some places to start:

• Hard Drives: A business may choose to encrypt entire hard drives as a way to reduce or eliminate data theft.
• Individual Files: In cases where full disk encryption is overkill, file-by-file encryption provides added security on an “as-needed” basis. Many leading encryption products offer drag-and-drop encryption capabilities.
• Laptops: Unlike office systems, laptops are easy to lose and are prone to casual theft. By ensuring that the system’s data content is unreadable, a business can limit its loss to the cost of the laptop. A growing number of government regulators and insurance companies are demanding that businesses encrypt any data that leaves their premises and over 5000 Laptops were left in the back of a taxi cab last year.
• Removable Media: Memory sticks, thumb drives and similar portable storage technologies provide portability, convenience, and an opportunity for data loss and theft. As with laptops, encryption limits a business’s loss to the cost of the device itself. A growing number of removable-media devices come with built-in encryption support.
• File Transfers: Sending files over unsecured wired or wireless links can expose sensitive information to data thieves. Encryption provides an additional layer of security, even when a secured network is used.
• Email: Encrypted email is kept secure during the transmission process and while sitting in its recipient’s mailbox.
• IM (Instant Messaging): A growing number of businesses are using IM to swap confidential business information. Encryption helps secure these critical transmissions.

Encryption’s Limitations

Like any technology, encryption software isn’t perfect. Even the best products consume both processor speed and storage space. Users can also lose or forget passwords, thereby potentially locking systems forever.

Before purchasing any encryption tool, carefully research the product. Make sure that the offering addresses your company’s needs, is compatible with your systems and has a good track record concerning reliability and support. If possible, check with your friends and colleagues for their opinions on various encryption tools.

Lastly, if you do use any of the products available for encryption, including Windows EFS, please remember to backup and store your public and private keys. If not, you will probably lose your data.